There has been so much talk about setting goals and how it helps improve your productivity. Now that the New Year is in it seems like a really nice time and thing to do. And there you go, upbeat, as you set your new goals, you even took the pains to write them down. 12 months later, there you are sad, disappointed and down-beaten because of course those goals didn’t quite see the light of day……here is why:
Are they truly your goals? This question sounds ironic doesn’t it? Oftentimes people set goals based on what they see others, friends or acquaintance do. E.g. you want a car or a type of car because you know a cool friend that owns one too. You include getting married on your bucket list because apparently your close friends are doing it, what could hurt? While it’s entirely ‘ok’ to want what others want, or to join a competition of some sort, take a pause and truly ask yourself do I want it because I need it or because others have it.
Commitment: Commitment, that’s a strong vocabulary in today’s world you know. Relationships of every kind fail because of its lack thereof. In same vein, goals never came to fruition because persons setting them lack fixity of purpose. You know the Bible actually has a word or two for the ficklies; they will be simply tossed away by the wind like the wind. You want to achieve your goals in the face of distractions and imminent winds? Then you’ve got to stay glued to the cause, you have to always keep-in-view that which brought you to the goals.
Bite in Bits: and so with high hopes and optimism you pack your plate full with activities and ‘to-do’s, the more the merrier you thought…..then all of a sudden, your sweet lofty goals starts to overwhelm and soon petrifies into a mission impossible. Here’s what they forgot to teach you in culinary school, bite-in-bits! Take your set goals one at a time, build an even momentum to avoid burning out too quick, and spread the goals properly across your set time frame. In the ambits of goal setting, how fast you get there isn’t as important as getting there itself. (Of course by now you know your goals should be synergistic right?)
Prioritize: biting bits by bits would be easy when you know exactly which piece to bite first. What is important is not always urgent and what is urgent is not always important, finding the right balance between both ultimately determines your happiness in goal fulfilment. Let me guess, you’d probably not be able to do everything on your list, but remember the popularized 80/20 rule? Don’t get caught spending frivolous amount of time pursuing goals that appear quite urgent but contributes nothing significant in the scheme of things. Remember, only a 20% of your set goals contribute 80% of the happiness that comes thereof, find that 20% and get it done ASAP.
Agreeing With the Powers That Be: Now this is my favourite part, the part where I get spiritual. I really could care less whether you believe in God or not, for whether you believe or don’t believe doesn’t change the fact that he exist and governs over the affairs of men. Man proposes, God disposes, even after setting the proper plan, some things just seem to get out of control which is why it’s a lot wiser working in tandem with the God of man for he alone remains The All Knowing. Even the perfectionist of us still knows to give room for contingencies; still knows to give room for God. Contrary to what we presume, He always wants the best for us, if only we could be humble enough to say, Lord, let your will alone be done.
Written By: BADEJOKO ADEWALE